Who Else Has Real Eyes That Realize The Real LIES?
In this short post, I’m going to explain why I felt like I was being paid less than I was worth, why there was always “more month than money”, and why I was constantly asking myself, “why am I always so busy and exhausted?”.
YOU MAY BE LYING TO YOURSELF.
How do I know you’re lying to yourself?
Because I used to be there.
I used to tell myself I was busy, all the time. I was chasing linear income, painfully missing time with my kids, my family, and my friends. I was owned by traditional business.
If it wasn’t for a few mentors finally interrupting my patterns and helping me discover the true value of my own time freedom and how to get it, I would still be there, running in place.
Sooner or later, we realize that TIME is more valuable than money.
Money comes and goes, but you will never get your time back.
Now, some of the things in this post may irritate or make you uncomfortable, but at least they are the truth, and the truth may just set you free, like it did for me.
But There’s A Catch
It must be more painful NOT to change, than to come out of your comfort zone and create change.
You may just realize, (like I did), that “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. You’re not going to take it any more! You’re tired of being tired, not being able to travel the world with your family, always saying, “I’ll do it later”.
Maybe you’ll decide that you’re not going to do what you’ve been told any more!
“They LIED to me. I am tired of being busy and tired!” And when enough is enough, you’ll open your mind for growth to overcome your inner fears, breaking patterns, and taking action to change your life forever.
So, here are the 7 absolutely ridiculous lies (old language patterns) that have kept you from “the next level” of life, with more time freedom and more income in 2016.
You will have to build this brain muscle for the next few months, staying “awake“, in order to catch your subconscious in the act, once and for all, breaking these internal language patterns that have held you back for years.
1. Real Lie: “I’m so busy/don’t have any extra time”:
This obnoxious language pattern will surely keep us “too busy” for friends, family, and life, until something BAD happens, (or you realize most of your life is over and you better do something different, quick).
After the wealth books sunk in, I finally realized I was saying this to my children, my friends, and my family all the d*mn time, and finally I got tired of it.
My small businesses had taken me away from my freedom, my traveling, and worst of all, my quality time with my children.
What I thought was success in traditional business, was actually just being really BUSY chasing linear income, trading my priceless TIME for money.
The more “successful” we became, the more employees there were to manage, the more overhead, paperwork, mortgage, insurance, maintenance, etc.
A few solution oriented questions would be:
– Why am I motivated to work hard for money? What am I really after, that money will get me?
– Is what I am doing currently for money, getting me to the things that are most important to me?
– In the last 3 years, has anything changed?
– If I keep doing what I’m doing, am I going to be in a place of financial or time freedom in the next 5 years, so I can get to the things that are most important in my life?
If you currently run your own small business, you’ve probably figured out that you don’t own it – it owns you, and all of your time, which causes the language pattern.
The only way you’re going to interrupt that pattern of “not having any time” is to INVEST the time to learn how to duplicate and leverage yourself.
If you don’t learn, you’ll never break the pattern and have the extra time to do the more meaningful activities in life, and things that are on your bucket list with your friends/family.
Solution: People FIND the time for the things they VALUE. Figure out your WHY”.
Asking the right questions will bring your subconscious, (which runs your life on autopilot), to come up with the right solutions and actions:
a. What would having more quality time mean for me and my family?
b. What would that allow me to be, do, and have?
c. After I have achieved this, am I going to look back and see that it was worth it?
The answer…. (YES!)
2. Real Lie: “I’m broke/don’t have any extra money”:
This deadly language pattern will keep you broke, and like the others, if you don’t interrupt that language habit RIGHT NOW, you’re going to be in the exact same boat tomorrow, next month, next year, and the year after that, for a very long time until you figure it out.
What you must understand is that most EVERYONE makes money. We all work to earn money somehow, but the difference between the wealthy and poor is what you choose to do with your spare money when you get it in your hands.
When you earn money, what happens then? Do you immediately invest it into a business/asset, or do you waste it on liabilities, spending to look successful and keep up with the Jones’?
You must understand that being “broke” can be temporary, but being poor comes from consistent poor habits and decisions.
If you want change, you must make better decisions with what you do with your money. Sell your TV, (automatic income reducer), to come up with the money to invest in something.
DO IT NOW, not “later”. You can’t expect any level of change if you keep the procrastination, bad habits, limiting beliefs, and crippling internal language patterns.
Solution: Stop being a WUSSY, scared to invest in yourself! Make the decision to create change.
Change your internal environment. Read wealth books. Change what you consume (into your mind and body). Learn to budget, (down to the penny if you have to), to be able to save the money to invest in something.
Just remember: Investing isn’t risky. It’s not knowing what you’re investing into is what is risky. Poor people fear risk and failure. Wealthy people invite it, because you learn and grow from every failure!
3. Real Lie: “I need to work harder!”:
We’ve all learned from our parents to “work hard”, but actually, this is old information from The Great Depression that has been passed down a generation too many.
“Hard work” is good and all, but that was passed down from our parent’s parents, who lived in the Industrial Age, where you were programmed to work hard, “with your own two hands”, in a factory until you are old and grey.
There was not a lot of actual thinking involved, just hard work for non-leveraged income – (meaning, no lifestyle).
Lucky for us, today is the Information Age, and the highest paid entrepreneurs with time freedom are those who work smart and understand that timing is everything in business.
You will squeeze 40 years into 5 years with smart leveraged work to build assets, if you’re in the right business vehicles, and “timing is everything”.
One way I worked smart instead of hard, was learning how to share information on the internet.
If you learn something and share that valuable information, in the Information Age, (NOT the Industrial Age), you can make a ton of money!
I don’t actually physically sell anything , (which would be a linear money equation), but simply share extremely valuable information that helped people.
** Timeless tip:
Those who help the most people, creating the most value in the market place, are the ones who are the most successful.
Solution: Get yourself uncomfortable and do smart work!
The hardest thing to do is THINK. Growth is painful. (Uncomfortable). This is why people get regular 9 to 5 jobs – they don’t have to think! They just can go there and do what they’re told for 8-10 hours/day.
Now it may seem easier with less pressure to be an employee, but I think the 40-year hard work plan is WAY harder than the 5 year (smart) plan. And even if you fail, you learn.
4. Real Lie: “Go to school and get a safe secure job”:
They say that poor people teach their kids to “go to school, get a good job”, or “the smarter you are, the more money you’ll make”.
You know, the plan to work hard, making someone else rich, to retire at 65 or 70! Great idea, right? LOL
The truth is, wealthy people teach their kids the exact opposite. The wealthy teach their kids how to HIRE our “smart” hard-working kids right out of college.
Every wealth book says, “a school education will get you by, but a self education will make you a fortune”.
But don’t just take my word for it. You must think for yourself.
Stop and think:
Are you “doing what you’re told”? Who are you taking advice from? Should you take advice and opinions from them if they are not successful in that area you want to be successful in?
You’ve been told to get a safe secure job or small business and work 40-60 hours/week for the next 45 years, and retire when you’re 65 or 70 years old.
THEN when you’re too old, you’ll get to travel the world and be with your family and finally get to LIVE! So if you play that movie out to the end, how is that plan going to work out for you?
The problem with that plan is, you’re not really living it up and don’t really have the energy to travel around the world at 70 years old.
Yes, having a job is good, and being self employed is even one step better. But if you’re looking for next level living, (and/or freedom), you’ll need a 24-7 leveraged business vehicle.
Solution: Read a ton of wealth books. Start with “Rich Dad Poor Dad” by Robert Kiyosaki. Then get “The Cashflow Quadrant”. Once I began to realize how little I knew about freedom, I became addicted to discovering what else I didn’t know!
How can you win “the game” if you don’t even know the rules?
5. Real Lie: “I need a good/better job”:
Sooner or later, (hopefully sooner), we realize that a better job will not allow anyone any true financial or time freedom. We may have received a raise, but nothing has changed.
You’re still building the dreams of someone else, and if you’ve filled out a W-2 form, you are taxed to death, trapped in the very worst tax bracket.
We all know, “It’s not what you make, it’s what you keep“, but some people actually go out and get 2 or even 3 jobs, and now they are working backwards – doubling and tripling their own tax burden!
I mean seriously, have you ever seen someone with 2 or 3 jobs – are they wealthy yet? heheh! That’s a cold hard “NO”.
You can not grow wealth if you do not get your tax burden down to a legal minimum.
The truth is, there are rich people, (who work, trading their time for money, many times stuck indoors 15 hours/day), and then there are wealthy people, (who invested the time to build assets that pay them whether they work or not).
They worked smart and are now done working, able to choose what they want to do with their day. Wealth is not measured in money, it is measured in time freedom and quality of life.
We unconsciously think about WHAT job can we do, or HOW we can make money, so we become slaves to linear income, (meaning, if you stop working, you stop getting paid), so you’ll be working until you’re very old.
A “better job” is never going to change your situation, because it is still linear income – things will be the same for you next year.
If you don’t realize and write down what is important to you, (your WHY and your passion), you won’t feel the importance of coming out of your comfort zone and taking action on the “how” to create an extraordinary life, because it is uncomfortable.
Wealthy people have realized WHY they are on Earth – they have purpose. You need more powerful motivation to learn and DO whatever it takes to make leveraged assets for passive income, (even while you sleep), so you have the TIME to make an impact in the world, paying it forward.
Wealthy people leave legacies – not only money, but valuable information.
Again, yes, it is extremely uncomfortable to learn and DO something new and different, and if you don’t have a strong enough reason WHY you would do it, you will never find the time or money to learn how. People with no “why” stay in their comfort zone, which is also a form of living inside the box.
Solution: Read the book called “Lower Your Taxes Big Time” by Sandy Botkin . Then search for a home business that you can be passionate about. The tax benefits alone will change your life. Your taxes are the biggest expense of your life, and if you don’t get your taxes down to a legal minimum, you will never build wealth.
6. Real Lie: “I already know” :
This is a killer of ultimate success. A fixed mind will keep you stuck, trying the same approach that isn’t working.
When I was younger, I was self-employed and thought I “had it all dialed”, being “busy and successful”. After I while, wealthy mentors helped me discover that what I had done was bought myself a JOB.
Most of us don’t realize we aren’t really listening to people when having a conversation. We are just saying “I know that already” in our heads, and thinking of the next thing to say back.
A few others actually “know” the path, but don’t come out of our comfort zone and take the risk to WALK the path.
If you’re not where you want to be in life, but you stick to what you think you know, and you defend your beliefs about money or time, then you are stuck, aren’t you?
When you think you “know it all”, then you can’t learn anything. You should be listening intently when wealthy people are around. If you’re always talking, you’re just repeating what you think you already know.
You’re definitely not listening, therefore you’re not learning anything that will get you to the next level. I finally learned that I should be asking questions and being interested, instead of trying to be interesting!
So, the more you learn, the more you find out how little you actually know, and that you don’t even know what you don’t even know!
In order to have what you’ve never had before, you must learn what you didn’t know before, and you must DO what you’ve never done before. In order to achieve more, you must become more, to be more valuable for others!
Solution: Drop the ego. Admit you don’t know it all. And when the student is ready, the master will appear!
OR, you can just go searching and find one! lol
7. Real Lie: “I don’t like sales” and “I’m not a good salesman/saleswoman“:
This is one of the worst human fears of all time, killing any big dreams or abundance. This fear mostly comes from TV and movies.
We have unconsciously picked up the thought patterns that salesmen are “slimy” or “pushy”, so we program ourselves to say “NO” to opportunities before we even KNOW what we’re saying “NO” to. (Like those horses with the blinders on so they don’t get spooked!)
The fact is, those who make the most money in this world do some form of sales. Sales happens when someone is happy to part with their currency in trade of something that is more valuable than the currency they hold on tightly to.
Also, many many times in your life, you have tried to sell yourself on why you were the “right person for the job”, or why your product or service would be valuable to someone or their business, or why you would be the best boyfriend/girlfriend.
Think about it: Have you ever recommended something to somebody before? Of course! And they probably came back a couple days later, saying “wow, thank you for telling me about that, it was awesome!”…
In fact, the highest paid activity in this world is sales, and the people who make the most money in this world are the ones who help the most amount of people get what they want.
They do this by SHARING information about a product/service to others – not “selling“.
It’s extra funny when people try to sell me on why they’re “not a good salesman”. If you don’t like selling, it would be because either you don’t believe in yourself, or you don’t believe in your product or service.
I always joke, “oh how cute! Look at you trying to sell me on why you’re not a good salesman!” (Then 3 months later, they ask me for a job, trying to “sell” me on why they are valuable for a position!)
Solution: Think about your favorite restaurant: Have you ever told anyone about it? Of course you have. And you don’t care if they go or not, but you naturally wanted to SHARE the information with them because you’ve had a good experience and you believe in the product!
You see, we do a form of referral marketing or Direct Sales every day, we just don’t get paid for it…. YET! That’s why the new buzz term is “social capital”.
The power of the word of mouth is the most powerful thing in business, and now everyone knows you can capitalize on it. They say “Rich people build networks, to make money while they sleep. Everyone else looks for work.”.
So, to interrupt bad patterns for the rest of 2015, suspend your disbelief long enough to pry your mind open and search out things you are passionate about.
You’ll then surely feel like sharing it with the world. If you believe in what you’re doing, it will not feel like work to you, and loving what you do is the true success!
Enthusiasm is what naturally attracts others, and they will be begging for more info on your products and services!
For more info on making more money in 2016, or if you’re ready to get over what’s been stopping you, click here to discover how I went from busy and exhausted, to 24-7 leveraged income with a laptop and a cellphone!
If you have any questions, get at me here, and have a great year! We’ll see you on the beach!
The world is yours, M!