Marc Frank Montoya – Mister Contrary

Category: Fear

Why You PROCRASTINATE And How To STOP It Immediately
Question:

Ever caught yourself procrastinating, and then you catch yourself STILL DOING IT, as you tell yourself NOT to do it, every day, over and over again?

Well, first of all, don’t beat yourself up ANY MORE, because most of us AVOID anything and everything that is uncomfortable.

(*This “avoidance” is actually what drives us to do what we do every single day.)

We go to work not because we LOVE to work, but because we are AVOIDING the pain of being fired and not having money that supports our comfort.

Ever caught yourself walking into the kitchen to make a snack so you can (temporarily) avoid doing the thing you didn’t want to do?

So today I’m going over the best ways of first:

Making yourself aware, and then

Finally putting a stop to your procrastination immediately…

So you can help yourself get UN-STUCK and on to the next level in your business/life…

But HOW though?

Well first, let’s be aware of “HOW” this happens, (even when you don’t want to procrastinate), so you can build your brain muscle to CATCH yourself at the times you’re subconsciously doing it, (and then SMACK YOURSELF), lol!

You procrastinate if/when:

You’re a “perfectionist”. (You want everything to be “perfect”).

You’re stuck on “Someday Island”….. (waiting for the “perfect time” before you begin).

You have a fear of failure / fear of rejection / fear of “loss”.

You care about O.P.O. – (Other People’s Opinions) and don’t want to be criticized.

You’re not “breaking it down” properly.

So let’s knock out 1 thru 4 real quick because (all) of these fears and/or obstacles can get clumped together in this context…

And then we can get to the important one for this article – (#5).

Now, when people call themselves a “perfectionist”, (trying to give yourself props for being perfect), it’s really just taking the easy way out, (when in reality you’re sabotaging your own results — waiting for everything to be perfect before taking massive action!

The reality is, it’s NEVER the “right time” and things won’t ever be “perfect”, so you’ll get yourself stuck on “someday island” while someone else eats your lunch.

Most of the time this stems from FEAR – (of failure, rejection and/or “loss”.)

So one way to get rid of these fears is to BREAK IT DOWN correctly, in little bite-size chunks, so our brain doesn’t go “negative”…

How To Manage Expectations And Energy

When you break down the task into smaller (manageable) pieces, knocking them off one at one time is less overwhelming.

Then, you can focus on accomplishing what’s right in front of you, (right in the moment), and it’s so much more of a “positive” experience (and more achievable).

Sometimes the bigger goals on the Dream Board are way too far off in the distance and seem overwhelming to you, so your brain has a bigger chance of going “negative”.

So right now, let’s substitute negative future visualization for real-time positive thinking…

Meaning…

Break it DOWN

Suppose you’re working with a Direct Sales company and you want to generate an income of $500k per year…

A coach or mentor would coach you to get out there and expose 1300 prospects to your offer.

For most, that’s sounds overwhelming, doesn’t it?

But what if I’m correctly trained to coach you into daily tasks, asking you different questions that empower you and manage your expectations?

Having the right expectations can help you maintain positive energy.

I would ask you to break that up into 4-7 years, so I can manage your energy and expectations right from the start.

We would break that 1300 down into simple bite-size pieces.

When most people get into Direct Sales or Home Business, they “STARE up the mountain” instead of STEP up the mountain, one step at a time!

And yeah, I suspect that some people would still find this intimidating, but only because you’re being asked to look ahead one whole year (or 5 whole years).

Naturally, when amateurs attempt to look that far ahead, they automatically go into a negative mode…

However, being committed to prospecting one person every day or every other day is completely realistic.

So now let me really break it down:

If the number is 1300, and you break it down to 200 per year, (which is NOT EVEN ONE per DAY!), don’t you think you could now do that if you gave yourself 6-7 years?

Yeah, now the task is starting to seem more manageable.

Be Consistent

So let me formulate the idea in yet another way. I’ll break it down even more, in terms of maybe writing a book…

Suppose I ask you if you can write a page per day with words…

Not for a year, not even for a month, or a week, but just one day, today?

Don’t look further ahead (at all) than that.

I believe most people would confidently say that they could really do that. And these are people who feel totally incapable of writing a whole book.

If I said that exact same thing to those people tomorrow — If I told them, “I don’t want you to look backward, and I don’t want you to look ahead. I just want you to fill up a page every day”. Do you think they could do it?

Have you ever been asked, “How do you eat an elephant?” That’s what we’re doing here.

ONE BITE AT A TIME.

We’re breaking down the time required for a major task into one-day segments, and we’re breaking down the work involved in writing a 400-page book into one-page increments.

Keep this up for one year, and you’ll write your book.

Discipline yourself to NOT look forward and NOT look backward and you can accomplish things you never thought you could possible, and it all begins with those three words:

Break it down.

And now…

Write It Down!

We’ve all heard how important it is to write down your goals, and the writing you will do for beating procrastination is quite similar.

Instead of “hoping” on the future, you’re going to be writing about the present just as you experience it, every day.

Instead of describing the things you want to do or the places you want to go, you’ll describe what you actually did with your time, and you’re going to keep a log.

If you’re dead serious, you’ll keep a diary of your daily activities, and you’ll have a DMO, (Daily Method of Operation).

And if you do, you’ll be downright dumbfounded by the amount of distractions, detours and straight up wastes of time you engage in during the course of a “normal” day.

All of these unimportant distractions work to pull you away from your goals, because if you don’t have a plan for your life and take it serious, something (or somebody) else DOES.

For many people, it’s almost like they planned it that way, (and maybe at some unconscious level they did.)

The biggest thing about making a “time diary” is that it brings it all out in the open where you can see it.

It forces you to realize what you’re actually doing with your time—and what you’re not doing.

Now, this time log of yours doesn’t have to be anything too elaborate. Just buy some kind of little notebook (or even an app on your phone) that you can easily carry in your pocket.

When you go out to eat, when you drive across town, when you go to the store(s), when you spend some time talking to friends, make a quick note of the time you began the activity and the time it ends.

Try to make these notations as quick as possible. And if it’s way too inconvenient to do it immediately, you must make sure to fill it in later.

But you should make an entry in your log (at the very least) once every hour, and you should keep this up for at least a week.

So gain awareness and catch yourself procrastinating red-handed. Then…

Break it down.

Write it down.

These immediate strategies are very straightforward, but don’t let that fool you:

They are powerful, effective and efficient productivity techniques. This is how you stop that damn procrastination once and for all…

Can’t wait to hear your results!

The World Is Yours, M…

Oh, and hey, P.S. –

I’d love to hear how this worked for you in the comments! Keep in touch!

Oh, and one more thing…

If you want to watch how to FIND and MAKE more time in the day to commit to your business, watch this clip:

Click HERE for more!
May 13, 2021
How To BE, DO, And HAVE Everything You Want In Life
If You Get This Backwards… It’s Pure Sabotage.

BE

DO

HAVE

IN THAT ORDER.

Now, most people get this completely wrong. They start backwards, and it absolutely ruins any chance of success.

I remember my backwards mindset. It goes like this:

“When I (“HAVE“) the time and money, I’ll (“DO“) what I need to do, in order to (“BE”) where I want to be!”

You’ll notice:

People who struggle, month to month, year to year, always start with “have”.

Yes, we all want to “have” the good life…

But it doesn’t work like that.

You must:

(DECIDE) to BE the person you need to be…

Who DOES what successful people DO… (which is BE RESOURCEFUL and do WHATEVER IT TAKES to move forward)…

In order to HAVE what successful people HAVE.

IN THAT ORDER.

As you watch the video below, you’ll realize the paradigm shift and start to understand how to change your thought pattern.

If you learn to reprogram your thought process, you will slowly manifest whatever it is you’re looking for.

Because:

Your beliefs will control your thoughts.

Your thoughts will control your actions.

Your actions will control your results.

Then your results will skyrocket your belief!

You will automatically BE the opposite of those who “settle”, living month-to-month, and you will start to FIND A WAY to MAKE IT HAPPEN.

And when you become aware of the stories you tell yourself, like “I don’t have any money” or “I’m just so too busy”,

Or,

“I’d like to create more for myself, but I don’t have any time“.

Then you’ll be able to catch yourself, smack yourself, STOP the PATTERN and MAKE IT HAPPEN, some how, some way!

So here’s a clip on how to change the way you think, which is the first step when learning how to take action and manifest exactly what you want…

Enjoy!

What Will It Cost You NOT To?

This is a question that may give you some leverage to finally take the action you need to take.

Many people in this economy feel stuck, doing hard work they are not passionate about, but still resist creating changes.

Why?

Because we avoid PAIN.

And being “uncomfortable” means pain. And make changes is uncomfortable, so we will avoid it.

But here’s the key…

If it is not more painful to STAY where you are than to make a change, then you will STAY exactly where you are.

BUT…

If it is MORE PAINFUL to STAY where you are, than to make uncomfortable changes, then you will create CHANGE!

I know, because at 20 years old, I used to be there.

It’s called “quiet desperation” and staying in your “comfort zone”, even though you want a better quality life.

In actuality, your comfort zone is really your ENSLAVEMENT ZONE.

Now, if what you’re currently doing for work is not getting you where you want to go, are you going to keep doing what you’re doing but expect a different result?

If what you’re doing right now is not making you happy or getting you to your dreams, can you really afford to stay there?

You must gain LEVERAGE :

So now:

What it will cost you, long-term, to continue to NOT take action toward a better future for you and your family?

Could it ultimately cost you a life of struggle, leaving a legacy of mediocrity?

What were you doing 3 years ago? Has anything changed?

What will you be doing in 3 years if you don’t make a change?

What if you teach your kids to “settle” for what life “gives” you?

Watch out, because they pick everything up from you.

They don’t listen to what you SAY, they learn from what you DO.

Attitude And Actions To BE, DO, HAVE

You can not create wealth or abundance if you don’t learn how to get your taxes down to a legal minimum.

Click here for Tax Benefits of Owning Your Own Home-Based Business.

Starting your OWN business is a MUST, but do not panic, it is much easier than you think.

Most of the millionaires today are coming from Home Business, and there is absolutely no risk.

The start-up capital is minimal for internet marketing, affiliate marketing, network marketing, blogging, and direct sales, and most of these have proven systems to get you into the profit margin quickly, so you will make money like a Boss by having your own business.

On top of that, by moving yourself from the employee tax category into the business owner tax category, you can actually save between $2k and $10 in taxes alone. This is better than having a second income.

What this also means is that is is extremely risky NOT to start your own business, as you painfully lose $2k – $10k per year as a taxes employee with no write-offs.

Resources To BE, DO, and HAVE Everything You Want

Click around under “Own Your Life” or get my free Boot Camp on this site for more valuable information on taking your living to the Next Level.

To learn more about making money from home, going toward your dreams, owning your life, and/or blogging about your passions, Click Here On Make Money While You Sleep, or go directly here to I’m A Boss!

Take action now, and we’ll see you on the best beaches and mountains of the world! M…
April 8, 2013
If You Fear Failure, Then Your Worst Fear Will Become Reality – 6 Principles Of Failure

How to Conquer The Fear Of Failure

“No wonder I was failing… I had absolutely no idea how it worked”…

I once heard from a wealthy mentor of mine:

– If you fear losing money, then you will be a “loser of money” and stay BROKE.

It took me a while to “get it”, but I later found out through experience, that when you have a big fear of losing money, then you will never even take the risk, and you will lose out on millions of dollars you would have made, which is the biggest risk of all.

The decision to “pass” on opportunity is deadly.

Instead of taking control and owning your life, you may wait around for a “lucky break” or “lottery” ticket.

Every mentor says, “Success doesn’t give you what you want or “need“, it gives you what you deserve”.

Have you deserved success by making the good decisions that are necessary – like the discipline it takes to save the $5 per day (instead of the $5 coffee), and invest it into an asset? I didn’t realize this for years, and I sure paid for it later.

I once heard from a wealthy mentor of mine:

– If you fear rejection, then you will be a reject.

Same rules apply here. If you don’t face your fear being rejected, then you will never even try, ensuring that the answer is always a “NO”!

Remember back in high school, when you wanted to go on a date with that person you were interested in, but you were so fearful of getting told “no”, that you never even asked, as your worst fear became a reality.

When you don’t go for it, your reality is always a “NO”.

If you fear you might fail, chances are, you’re a failure:

Hmmm… Do we see some consistencies here? …

Most people fear failure so much that, they never even try, or even get started.

Fear success?

Some people even tell themselves, “well what if I succeed, it’ll be so much pressure!” and “I’ll pry have to pay tons in taxes!” and “but people hate rich people!”

This internal dialogue is your subconscious. It is most powerful, with the ability to sabotage any success you thought you had a chance for.

Change your thoughts, you will change your life.

If you have a fear of other people’s opinions, (in other words, care about what people might think about you), then you will never do anything that will be worth talking about.

I always let people know…
If you aren’t doing any out of the ordinary, (extraordinary), then yes, people won’t be talking (crap) about you, (good or bad), which means you are probably are not very successful.

If you fear the “unfamiliar” and only “stick to what you know” and “play it safe”, then you won’t be catching any waves of success.

If you stay doing what “everybody else does”, never “venturing out” into the “unknown” or “uncharted areas”, then you will not ever be “at the right place at the right time”, and will not be one of what they call the “lucky ones”.

If you look around, you see that followers always wait for things to be “safe”, like sheep – until “everybody else is doing it”, and then they take action.

However, to catch the waves of success, it is all about timing. Same as surfing. You can’t be on top of it. You can’t be behind it. You must be way in front of the wave, and READY.

Those who make the big bucks are the ones who took the risk, before “everybody else” caught on. They know it’s about “preparation” meeting “opportunity”.

Vision

If you choose to live a life of leadership, then you take massive and immediate action when great opportunities are presented. You go after it, even if it takes you into unfamiliar territories.

The traditionalists stick to what everybody else does, waiting until it is more familiar, “safe”, or “normal” in the marketplace. Those who are too uncomfortable to get acquainted with the “unfamiliar” remain skeptical to “new” things, even if their old ideas are not working.

Too Good To Be True

I’ve heard a few people say “it seems like it’s too good to be true”. They are absolutely right, it IS too good to be true, but ONLY for THEM.

Those with the “glass half full”, who say “this is too good to pass up” are the ones who successfully (and consistently) catch waves.

Why is it that for some people, success just seems consistently effortless? It is because they decide quickly and take massive action. They know that even if they try, and fail, they still had a better chance at success than not trying at all.

So why do others sit and struggle, month after month, settling for what life gives them?

It is because even when they are at the “right place right time” and they should be taking massive and immediate action, they decide to stay with “I just don’t have the money right now”, and “yeah, I’ll get to it later”.

What about you? Have you ever accidentally sabotaged your own success? Some people do it, over and over and over again, without every realizing it. They watch waves pass by, watching other people “get lucky”, at the same time thinking (in quiet desperation), “nothing lucky ever happens to me!”

So here’s an idea…

Wanna know more about “getting lucky“? Wanna discover how to step toward your fears and right into success? You can click HERE to work with us, or watch this free paradigm shifting video clip RIGHT NOW.

Have fun!

The World Is Yours, M!

June 8, 2012
How To Win The Money Game

Funny, I can never decide which book changed my life, because they’ve all impacted me in so many different ways, but if you want to WIN, then keep reading… because this one is crucial.

This book (to the right) is no different, and if you haven’t read it yet, but you’re serious about a better future,Â go out and getÂ itÂ immediately…

Anyway, to get on with today’s very quick (but important) post…

In today’s economically challenged phase, we see people “pulling back” and going into “defense mode”Â in an attempt at winning the money game.

Employees will “save” for emergency, business owners will pull back on their marketing budget, etc..

In fact, I heard someone say the same thing again this week…
“I’d love to take advantage of that opportunity, but I just don’t have the money”.

I always think to myself, “If you only knew how quickly this kills your chances of future business success”.

This “defense” mindset is precisely what keeps most employees and business owners struggling, month-to-month, year-to-year.

You may barely be squeaking by, wondering why you can’t seem to get ahead or catch any lucky “waves”. Nothing ever seems to change.

I know it all too well, because I used to be there, playing “NOT to LOSE”.

Play To WIN vs. Play To “Not Lose”

To make this accidental “defense mode” easy to understand, I’ll put it in sports terms:

Let’s say you were a football team solely focused on defense…

100% of your team’s effort was GUARDING the other team from getting to your goal.

(With ZERO of your team’s effort focused on OFFENSE, to MAKE the goals.)

Now, what would be your chances of WINNING the game, if you only played DEFENSE for the entirety of the game?

That is – if you only focused on protecting yourself, (aka, staying in your comfort zone, not taking any risks or investing time into something new), and never really taking any real action to actually play offense in order to MAKE goals?

You would never actually WIN a game, would you?

The best you could EVER do is maybe get lucky and end in a “tie”, but you would never ever WIN.

The majority of month-to-month strugglers won’t take the risk to invest their money or time into better business vehicles or strategies as the dollar depreciates.

If you don’t stretch yourself to do whatever it takes to come up with a better (OFFENSE) strategy, you’ll never get out of your defense situation.

The funny thing is, it is your FEAR that is causing the downward spiral, and ultimately, it is affecting our whole economy.

Like I said in previous posts – Your worst fears will become reality if you do not step TOWARD them. When you fear losing money, you become a “loser“…. of money, LOL!
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May 21, 2012
Debt Hack: 3 Steps To Erase Your Racked Up Debt Immediately

If You Want A Way Out Of Debt Quickly, Then Here Are 3 Quick And Sure Steps. (Free Videos Included)

I remember when I used to feel pretty damn unsatisfied. I was delivering pizzas and loading boxes at ridiculous jobs with unqualified bosses.

I hated that feeling of stagnation. No matter which job I had, every 2 weeks I would have this anxious excited emotion, (right before I got my check), because I had so much overtime built up…

But then, every time, once I got my check, I would be just PISSED. I came to find out that they just tax you even harder when you have over time and make more money. Thank God I started reading some damn money books. I had to know why it felt so “dead-end” and hopeless..

This week I heard about 3 more friends that got laid off or “re-positioned”. The crazy thing is, they immediately resortedÂ to their same pattern, looking for some new job, as if that’s going to change anything.

Because of the programming to blame anything else except themselves, the same exact thing is going to happen to them AGAIN.

When will they learn? Sooner or later, the pain and frustration is going to make them pull their head out and realize:Â “You can’t do the same thing, over and over and over again, expecting a different result”…
If you defend your beliefs about how you’re supposed to make money, but you’re not where you want to be in your life, then you’re STUCK, aren’t you?

Now, when would be a good time to start thinking of better ideas and options that actually work, to get you where you REALLY want to go?

I’m going to get right into this for you.

Here are 3 immediate steps you must take, that will stop the pain, ease the stress, and convert your frustration into motivation to transform your own life.

Grab a paper and pen, absorb this.

If you decide to take massive and immediate action, you will OWN your LIFE.

Here are the 3 immediate steps you can take to erase your debt immediately.

#1. Educate Yourself On TAXES:
I hear it every day. People complain about the prices of movies, gas, coffee, food, etc.Â But why don’t we check our TAXES?

Your taxes are by far the absolute biggest expense of your lifeÂ and the number one reason you are in debt.

Now, most people have not invested the time to read a tax book, and are not very educated on the tax benefits of owning a home business, so they scrape by, living month-to-month, paycheck to paycheck, unnecessarily. Â

First, you must put yourself in a better tax category, by putting yourself into a 1099 situation with step #2 below…

Right now, if you are an employee, you are in the absolute worst tax category you can be in. If you’re simply an employee without a side business, you’re forced to fill out a W-2 form.

This is a hopeless situation.Â The good news is, you don’t have to stay there. You now have a choice. Get educated and courageous, or be a slave for someone who IS…

#2. Start Your Own Home Business: (Very simple and quick these days)
Start your own Home Business in your spare time, so you not only have better tax advantages saving thousands of dollars, but generating supplemental income, so you can then pay of your car, your house, and invest into other assets.

If you don’t have much money, I recommend using The Business of the 21st Century – Network Marketing, Affiliate Marketing, or Internet Marketing.

It’s not easy, but it’s SIMPLE, and when you work, you profit. After you profit, you invest.

After you invest, you’ll have multiple streams of income, for a financial fortress around you and your family that nothing can penetrate, and you’ll be making money while you sleep.

Yes, this sounds like a “catch phrase” and maybe even “too good to be true”, but this is only the case for those who don’t have a belief level in themselves high enough to know they can live at the “next level”.

For those with desire to “make money while you sleep“, it is way easier to create than you would think. There are many proven systems and courses, right here on this site, that you can discover, implement, and even teach.

#3.Work Harder On Yourself Than You Do At Your Job: (There’s a CATCH)
The catch to having your own business is that you don’t have a boss to order you around, so there is nobody there hovering over your shoulder to make you do the uncomfortable things you don’t feel like doing.

You may think the training and the work is “optional” but it is not. The reason you worked 8-10 hours/day at a job was out of a “needy” or “desperate” spaceÂ – the space of needing money, (aka your job).

When you take the risk to have your own business, you have different fears, which are your enemies of success:
– The Fear of Loss
– The Fear of Rejection
– The Fear of Failure, etc..
– The Fear of OPO (Other People’s Opinions)

Solution: You Must Face Your Fears HEAD ON

Now I’m not smarter or more courageous than anyone at all, but I know that the keys to my success were that I’m not attached to money, (so I’m not scared of risking it).

I don’t care what other people think about me, and that I don’t quit anything until I’m really good at it.

I was committed to my dream, and didn’t let anyone talk me out of believing in myself.

I didn’t “try” to do it, or “get around to doing it”. I just committed to getting it DONE, now matter what, by doing whatever it takes.

So now when you’re your own boss and you want to own yourÂ life, you must be disciplined and self-motivated to learn, grow, and THINK, which is much harder to do than just “do what you’re told” (by a boss).

In a job, you are only motivated by fear. Yes, it is very powerful, and makes you move. If you don’t even like your job, but you have a family to support, you’ll still do the work, simply out of the fear of being fired.

Debt Erasing Leads ToÂ Time Freedom?

The low risk and huge upside potential of Direct Sales, Home Business, Internet Marketing, etc., was the number one thing that helped me keep my lifestyle, so I can be there, present with my family.

Nothing else really worked for me, nor did I have passion for it.

Do you know the biggest regrets people have, when they’re in their last days? It’s always,Â “I wish I would have been able to spend more TIME with my friends, traveling, and having more quality time with family.”

One thing people have never wished for is, “I wish I would have worked more!”.

So now, if you’ve been thinking ahead – Wouldn’t it be wise to find faster ways to create financial and time freedom, so you can do more of what important in your life?

After you absorb this information below, you will want to learn more about why it is has been so hard to get ahead with a job or small business, and how you can create a bit more freedom for yourself!

Watch these clips to understand more…

Now, watch this free video, and take ownership of your financial future, right now!
If this makes sense to you, contact MFM and team. We want to hear your story!

The World Is Yours, M!

February 26, 2012
Feeling "stuck" in these economic times? For most, it will be painful NOT to change.

Every time someone complains that either they “hate my job” or “I can’t afford that”, I think of this picture!

I remember the feeling, being stuck between a rock and a hard place. I always knew I wanted to be “rich”, but didn’t have a plan or know what to do. I didn’t know WHERE or HOW to start. I felt helpless and stuck. I was scared of losing any money I did have, and I was scared of failing. I didn’t think I had much of a chance, because I didn’t have anybody to “help” me, so I just lived there in “limbo” for a while, struggling, month to month just trying to survive. Many opportunities came and went, but I didn’t have any money, or at least that’s what I used to tell myself, so I stayed there struggling.
Finally I couldn’t take it any more. (more…)

December 5, 2011
"Comfort" Zone or ENSLAVEMENT Zone?!

Very important question for your future: Are you “comfortable“?
If you constantly looking for ways to be “comfortable”, then your future may very well be “NOT so bright”! This video of me WALKING ON BROKEN GLASS is a metaphor on how (and WHY) you MUST get UN-comfortable as much as you possibly can in your life, or you will find yourself in constant, safe “routines” that stunt your growth, causing stagnancy, and forever keeping you “behind the wave” of success. (Explained further underneath video)…

One of the laws of success is to “get out of your comfort zone”. (more…)

November 18, 2011
IGNORANCE and FEAR

We like to act like we aren’t scared, but then many times we choose to NOT take action to achieve our BIG dreams. This is because as humans, we want to feel “safe”. We aren’t willing to step out of our “comfort zone”. If something is “uncomfortable”, we usually find something “ELSE” to do, like watch TV or get on FB and do absolutely NOTHING instead. (more…)

August 24, 2011
"Weeding out the weak" !

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again:

The world NEEDS young new entrepreneurs more than ever.

The sad truth is, not everyone can or should be an entrepreneur.

In fact, there are some people who’d be horrible as entrepreneurs!
Most would probably not make much money, and would most likely make
themselves (and everyone around them) angry and disappointed.

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March 15, 2011